Did your expectations for great things makes you feel like what we have isn't really that great? Have you felt significant stress when they don't match up to reality?
We, as humans, are surprisingly unskillful at predicting how we will feel in various situations. This often tends us not to fully appreciate what we have as we have expected more or to compare what we have to what we could have.
Our expectations are greatly affected by what we see on television or social media. Those best moments are often filtered to look perfect but our worst moments are actually not being shared online. Have you heard someone says “well this is a lot different than what I’ve seen on TV”, “this was better than I expected it to be” or “this wasn’t that bad”?
Treating yourself to a massage can’t also get away from this. The only frame of reference most people have for what therapy is like is from what is portrayed in film or television. Hope that this will help you manage your expectation by knowing what to expect.
Expectation: I am fixed after this session…
Reality: We often want a quick fix, to make things better “right now”. In reality, this does not happen. Therapy takes time.
Expectation: I'm so in the zone. I am floating….
Reality: You are covered in oil, the AC is on, and you will just find yourself freezing!
Expectation: My knots will melt in no time. I'll feel reborn.
Reality: Ouch! That actually hurt.
Expectation: Oh, those cozy and relaxing music.
Reality: *Music stops, phone rings*
Expectation: The receptionist has the voice of an angel.
Reality: I can't see Diane at 2 pm. Who did you speak to?? When did you book??? Sorry, you need to wait for half an hour.
Expectation: They don't all do the tickly inner-thigh thing and the clicky finger part at the end.
Reality: Yes. Yes, they do!
Becoming aware of what you are expecting is a great start. Now if you found that going to a spa is not your thing, you may opt for Medcursor Massage products that you can do at the comfort of your home or wherever you go. This will allow you to give yourself relief, anytime anywhere. Before you start buying a massage device, it’s a good idea to do thorough research first. You can also read the Medcursor reviews section and read the experiences of other users so that you can better manage your expectations.
If you'd like to get out of the expectations vs. reality trap, it all comes down to awareness. Becoming more aware of your expectations and how they change your feelings toward your own reality can free you from the disappointment and stress that comes from unrealistic expectations.